Get used to the fact that as far as money is concerned, you and your spouse are most likely different. In fact you are diametrically opposed to each other, no wonder you have “intense moments of fellowship” over it! But it is a good thing to be so different. In our reading today from “Two Hearts Praying As One” (see www.familylife.com, if you do not have a credit card, you can contact me at smanjolo@gmail.com), the authors put it in a different way, but I will paraphrase; when it comes to money, either one of you has glue in their hands or grease!
I am the one with greasy hands. I just can’t hold that money. What is worse is that I cannot account for it most of the time. (At work I do a terrific job, go figure!). Aumi, on the other hand, has got super glue. She counts every coin. Okay, how many of you already know that that is a point of contention right there? We are getting better at it after eight years but I must confess, old habits die hard when you do it in your own strength but not when you ask the Holy Spirit to take over.
It also helps to look at your background. It really does help to visit your spouses parents and siblings. You will get some exclusives on how he/she handles money that way. Much as we are diametrically opposed in the way we handle money, we have learnt that it can be a great tool if you bring those differences together. Here a few pointers;

1. Write down what your view of money is.
2. Explain (in writing) why you you think you have that view.
3. Exchange the notes with your spouse.
4. Compare your answers
5. How can you combine these views and come up with a combined view.

Seriously, a shared framework on your views of money will go a long way in getting you closer to each other. continue to pray as you work out this framework. Remember that it is always a work in progress but do not forget to celebrate your victories on the way.