Must You Meet His Family Before the Wedding?

Got this question the other day, from Julie (name changed for privacy reasons)

Good question. Really, in today's world where people like to think of nuclear everything, where we have become the global village, this is a question that seems foolish but is important, very important.


I said very important. Why?


Well, it just so happens that his man you are preparing to marry grew up with these people. They know him, most like more than you do. They have this track record of his wows and woes. It's a wise move to meet them way before the wedding, several times.

And after the wedding. Really.


You will be surprised what you will learn about your husband to be by just being with his family. There is so much insight. Unfortunately for you, these are very personal experiences such that I cannot give you specifics.


Take me for instance, I learnt why my wife likes to watch athletics. The entire fifty something channels on DStv and she lands on athletics. You know, 100metre dash, swimming…the whole thing, when you could easily, very easily land on an Arsenal or Man U match. (Now you know what I watch). Well, it turns out that after some visits, I learn that my mother-in-law is into that, but my father-in-law is like me. That, my friend, basically put the remote control wars I have had with my wife into perspective. 

Very helpful indeed.


So yes, do get to meet his family before the wedding.


Way back before the wedding.


Several times.


And learn something. Warning, you might even end up deciding not to marry him.


Meet them okay?


It's wise.
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